Does caring for a loved one stir up some unwanted emotions for you? You’re not alone. While frustration may feel shameful to admit, it’s a common challenge in family caregiving. Think of frustration as the froth from deeper feelings brewing inside, such as disappointment, loneliness, anger, and stress overload. The key is to not expect that if you’re a “good caregiver,” you’ll never feel frustrated. Instead, learn how to keep those feelings from boiling over.
Examine expectations. When you’re caregiving, little is going to go exactly as planned. Maybe it’s time to take a look at your inner script and ease up on what you expect of yourself. Also, be realistic that your relative is doing the best they can, given their condition.
Preventative measures. It sounds trite, but it’s true: Taking good care of yourself can give you the patience and inner resources to better handle frustrating events. Build respite and meaningful activities into your schedule. Don’t skip meals, exercise, or sleep. Fatigue is a key trigger for frustration.
Reach out. Look for an outside source of support and understanding. This might be a friend, therapist, or support group where you can openly and regularly share your feelings. Having your feelings validated can do a lot to release pressure. And in the midst of a trying time, it helps to know that you are not alone.
When you’re aware of frustration bubbling up, consider the following:
- Pause and do a reality check
- Step away if it’s safe to do so
- Take ten deep, slow breaths
- Take a quick walk, if possible
By caring for yourself as much as you care for others, you’ll be better able to meet the challenges of the journey.
Struggling with frustration as a caregiver?
We understand! As the San Francisco experts in family caregiving, we at Compassionate Community Care can offer helpful solutions and resources to make your role a little easier. Give us a call at (415) 921-5038.